1. so basically first you and your friend install radmin vpn or hamachi or something like that so you guys can connect through networks
2. the host makes a network through radmin vpn or hamachi or something like that and give it a name and password
3. the host opens jbmod and clicks on "create server" and then clicks start
4. your friend will connect to your network through hamachi or radmin by entering the password and name
5. your friend copies the ipv4/ip address of your network
6. then your friend will type this in console:
connect (ipv4/ip address you copied in console)