why does it say a slur for gay people?

what is Phog? is it a portmanteau? where does the word come from. no one is asking the important questions.

I recently got a new laptop. My partner and I managed to find a way to get the save file back. However, I seem to be unable to connect with him on this laptop. After we both invite each other and the other chooses a save file to join with, both of us find ourselves stuck in an unending loading screen. I went back to my old laptop and confirmed that we had no issues connecting there. I'm not sure what the issue with connecting is from this laptop. We have tried joining after starting a new game and clicking...

等了半小时了都没进去，是服务器的原因吗？

Using my xbox 360 controller and the game seems to not pick up my controller whether I use the steam controller configuration or not. Any help please?